1	PARTNERSHIPS Charting the adVenture New Mexico ISPI December 2003 Mary Beth Shewan Jean Strosinski Wholelife Coaching Constructive Choices, Inc.
2	Establishing Your Network Describe the strengths YOU bring to a partnership and then the strengths you look for in a partner. Identify the 3 to 5 obstacles you have had to work through with previous or a current partnership. Describe a dream project you would love to co-create with a partner.
3	Charting the Journey Exceptional Strengths Yours Your Partner’s The Blend Burdensome Obstacles Agreement Business Disappointments … and the Successes
4	Navigational Tools: The Top Ten Vision & Passion Communication Goals & Plan of Action Listening An Open Mind …with Curiosity Acknowledge & Be Grateful Mutual Respect Agreements vs. Conflict FUN! Keeping All in Perspective
5	1. Vision & Passion Clarity for what you want to achieve together. Negotiate from the end vision. A shared vision comes from the heart. Be painfully candid and clear. Get behind what is outside the overlap, even if it isn’t the main thing for you personally. Revisit the vision and passion periodically. Is what you envision this year also the future? New realities … let it go …time to move on?
6	2. Communication Write and speak. Ask for help. Schedule time. Reflect on what’s working and what’s not. Constructive feedback. Speak the truth. Courageously raise the tough issues. Use technology. Keep it regular and planned. Discuss status, issues and next steps. Share presentations in advance. Talk, really talk … daily.
7	3. Goals & Plan of Action Share your goals and desired results from the partnership. Partnership/project charter to document roles, responsibilities, activities. Distribute the work equally. Offer what you can contribute. Siphon off the tasks neither like to do. Meet your deadlines – quickly and accurately. Know your personal bottom line.
8	4. Listening Listen first, talk second. Listen carefully when your partner is speaking (don’t butt in). Appreciate and understand each other to handle the misunderstandings and differences. Practice profound listening.
9	5. An Open Mind …with Curiosity Keep on looking for new things to enjoy about your partner and the partnership. Be aware of all the things you have done that would not have happened on your own. Be vulnerable. Open your eyes as well as your mind … your partners are right in front of you.
10	6. Acknowledge & Be Grateful Abundant opportunities and a lot of learning. Everyone, including your partner, is a customer. Model how you would like to be treated. Invest yourself into the partnership often. Keep the confidentiality. Care deeply about the other person. “No one gets to be wrong.” Thank your partner …often.
11	7. Mutual Respect Honor each partner’s values. Celebrate your differences. Acknowledge each other strengths. Capitalize on and play to these strengths. Tolerate the differences in the “how” and reconfirm the “what.” Find those who would/could be your friends – “ya gotta love ‘em.” No competition. Trust – be 100% You.
12	8. Agreements vs. Conflict Working agreements – define the rules. Schedules, and when to connect. Accountability systems for mutual work. How you will provide constructive feedback. Keep each other informed. Agree to disagree. How to handle the disagreements. Put it on the table, clear the space. Admit when you are wrong. Handle it immediately, keep it clean. Have other outlets for blowing off steam.
13	9. FUN! Have fun together. Balance the formal and informal. Love what you are doing together. Laugh. Relax and bask in the achievements you have created together. … and laugh together.
14	10. Keeping All in Perspective Brainstorm. Be creative without being attached to the idea. Keep it flowing. Let go easily of what isn’t working. Know when to call it quits with a project or the partnership. Celebrate the joy of getting to live a shared vision.
15	Your Journey Look over the “Navigational Tools: The Ten Tips.” Star (ê) 3-5 of the tips where you show up with strength – the personal strengths you bring to a partnership. Draw an arrow next to those characteristics you especially want in your partner – Note: Be sure to identify 3-5 that are not your strengths.
16	Discovery … the New Partnership Connect with a new person – one who has identified their personal strengths as being different from yours – these are the strengths you have identified with an arrow on your list. Briefly, explain your dream projects to each other. Choose one of the projects for the next few minutes of discussion. Discuss what each of you will bring to the partnership that supports the project’s success.
17	Questions & Answers Your Questions Thank You!
18	…and Thank You to Our Partners! B. Allaire S. Anderson L. Beller A. Betz R. Bodine W. Dudeck M. Dorfman C. Forrest G. Johnson M. Keveles S. Moss R. Schriver J. Seiler M. Shewan A. Sigetich J. Staggs J. Strosinski J. Ward B. White S. Wilson